Taking Frank Sinatra's Advice

Yes there were times I'm sure you knew
When I bit off more than I could chew
But through it all when there was doubt
I ate it up and spit it out, I faced it all
And I stood tall and did it my way.

I'm on the final week of FXB and as I inch towards Saturday when I'll have my final results, the song that continues to play in my head is Frank Sinatra's My Way. While I'm definitely hoping for some respectable losses, I already feel like I've come out of this with more success than I had hoped. I won't know until Saturday if I reached the inches/weight loss goals, nor will I know how much I've improved on the strength and endurance tests, but I do know what I've accomplished emotionally and spiritually.

I can walk into a room now knowing that I'm my best self, confident and self assured. My improved posture isn't just the result of restistance training or namaste stretches. I hold my head up higher because I feel so damn good about myself. I'm healthier, leaner, happier and so much more excited about who I am.

I was in a rut. I see that now. I was so consumed with making sure the kids and my husband's needs were met; that everyone felt loved and secure in the relationship they have with me, that I forgot about the most important relationship that needed nurturing - the relationship with myself. I lived in workout pants and tee shirts with pancake syrup smudged on the back. My go-to hairstyle was a big, unruly ponytail on top of my head, a new pair of flipflops felt like a guilty pleasure purchase. I'd skip salon appointments and grocery shop after the kids went to bed. Carmex was my makeup ritual some mornings. Laundry was my excercise. I wore drawstring flannel pants to bed with oversized SOCKS! (My poor husband!)

I didn't set out to let myself go, but somewhere, along the way - I lost myself in the people I love so much. I haven't neglected them during this process. On the contrary, they've been grateful recipients of my newfound zest for life. I'm happier, I'm so enjoying the time I have with the kids and I don't immediately want to tear my hair out when things get crazy around here, a fairly frequent occurence with three small children! I paint my toenails every week, I wear shorts (IN A SIZE 6!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!) with fitted tanks and yes, matching flipflops. I've purchased fun, flirty sundresses and tops. I kept my date with my stylist and I'm sporting a sexy, tossled head of hair. I splash some color on my face, spritz a bit of perfume behind my ear, even if my only outting is the market and a run to Target. It's none of your business what I'm wearing to bed these days, but it ain't flannel pants!!!!!!

I just feel......................................amazing. And I think when you truly feel that way, it shows.

I set out to be a success at Farrell's Extreme Bodyshaping. I made personal goals in the very beginning and so far, without knowing my final measurements, I've reached (and surpassed a couple) of those goals. I'm eating nutritious meals, I'm in complete control of what I'm putting in my body, I'm taking time out for me, I'm being as good to me as I am to those I love so much and I'm finally realizing that I deserve to have as good of a life as the people I work so hard for. Ol' Blue Eyes knew what he was doing when he decided to do it his way.

Let's hope the next song running through my head is Brick House. 'Cause that's how I feel!

Lucky Number Eight!

Eight weeks down! I can't believe I've been at this for two months. I remember the first week, thinking, "I can't wait for this to be over." And now that I only have two weeks left of the challenge, I find myself wishing for more weeks. I've loved the entire experience of Farrell's FXB - there's a comraderie and such a huge support system in play that nobody can really fail at this. Just when you don't think you can't do another push up or pound the bag with another right jab/cross combo, there's someone, whether it's a teammate, coach or an instructor, urging you to push past the pain and find a new level of personal accomplishment.

I'm thrilled with the inches I'm losing and the smaller size of shorts I'm wearing, but what I'm most proud of is how much stronger I am now. Hauling the laundry up from the laundry room would wind me, running around the track even once, nearly made me collapse and the thought of doing more than ten pushups was ludicrous.

Now I'm bounding up the stairs with two laundry baskets, running a mile at a respectable pace and if we do less than 50 pushups in a class, I feel cheated. Can I leap tall buildings in a single bound? Well, no - I'm not super human, but I'm a stronger human than I used to be and that, I'm proud of.

To steal a lyric from that all too famous female anthem of the 70's.........

I am woman, hear me roar.

...and for good measure, watch me do some pushups!!!!

Two weeks to go. I can't wait to see who I am!

Aint It Grand!

It's finally happened! I ran into someone I haven't seen since the beginning of the summer and she said, "Holy shit Michelle - you look great. Have you been working out?" I kinda wanted to burst a little bit. I mean, I know I'm working hard and surely those efforts are yielding results, but sometimes what we really need is a wee bit of affirmation from someone else, someone who hasn't seen us in a while.

I told her I was enrolled in the ten week challenge at Farrell's. I recognized the look on her face; I used to have it. Fear mixed with horror. I think she was slightly surprised I was still alive. Frankly, so am I. She asked me if it was as intense as she's heard and if I felt like dying on a daily basis. I told her it's pretty much as tough as she's heard and that my desire to lay down and die ended after about week two. She asked if it was worth it - a thousand times YES.

Speaking of a thousand, what many might not know is that at the end of the ten weeks, there's a male and female $1000 winner. The man and woman who has the most dramatic transformation wins a nifty little prize to pocket. I was recently asked if I'm gunning for the prize. Here's the thing - by about week #3, I completely forgot that there was such a prize. Would it be nice? Sure, I guess.

But I've won. I mean, the ten weeks aren't even over and I already know I've won. I feel incredible. I'm focused. I'm energized. I'm stronger. I'm happier. It's impossible to put a price tag on any of that.

I think that's what many of us realize during this journey. We are gaining back ourselves, or maybe for some, we're realizing who we are for the first time. We're already winners!

I'm just about finishing up week #7. I've made it to every class (this I'm immensely proud of) and I'm upping my game each week. If I think I can't, I push through. That's going to take me well beyond the gym. I'm pushing through life, it's not pushing me.

Would I like to win the money? Well, hell - who wouldn't? I know this - the local retailers would be thrilled because I'd hit the department stores and get this new body a wardrobe it deserves! It's just not a driving factor; it's not what motivate me.

I motivate me. And I'm worth a million bucks.

We all are!

Less of me is making room for MORE of me!

It's hard to explain how much I'm growing while at the same time, I'm literally getting smaller. I don't think I had any idea what kind of changes I would go through when I first enrolled in FXB. Obviously, my desire was to get back into last summer's wardrobe and maybe firm up my belly and finally shed some of my baby weight. Babies that I gave birth to 21, 8 and 6 years ago. It's a convenient enough excuse, and a valid one - for about a year. I even had a leg up, qualifying it with, "the twins really wrecked my body". Well, the twins are more than halfway to highschool, so the shelf life of that excuse has definitely expired.

So, I figured - sign up for an intense workout program that costs enough to make me slightly fiscally weary and lose some weight for the last weeks of beach and shorts season.

What never occured to me was that I probably needed to lose some additional weight that has nothing to do with the size of my jeans or the numbers on my scale. We haul around a lot of life, which makes it hard to actually live it when we're so busy balancing it (barely) above our heads.

I'm lighter now. Lighter in ways I didn't hope to be, or even think I ever could be. I worry less about the future and pay really close attention to the present. There's so much good going on in my life right here, right now. I'm living in the moments that life is giving me; letting the past go and the future surprise me.

My kids are these spectacular people I'm discovering. I mean, yes I've always known how amazing they are, but I worried about all four of them incessantly and allowed those worries to strain how I see them. I see all of them now - for who they've become and the potential they each have in them. I'm a mother of a 21 year old, a set of 8 year old twins and a six year old. I see all four of them and because of that, I thoroughly enjoy all four of them. I didn't always - because I carried who they were and who they weren't, on my shoulders and the weight of all of that took a bit of the joy of being their mother away. I've unburdened my shoulders and opened my heart further. I don't know who or what my kids will grow into someday, but I know that they've got a great shot at whatever they want because I'm their mother. My, how they love me.

I'm lighter.

I took my marriage too seriously. Sounds odd, doesn't it? I'm a daughter of a divorced couple, which created in me an unhealthy expectation within myself to be so superbly perfect at being a married couple, I felt letdown frequently. My husband didn't let me down - not really. He's pissed me off, he's hurt my feelings, he's left dirty socks on the family room floor and his cereal bowl on the counter. But he hasn't let me down. My marriage hasn't let me down. It's been hard, it's been boring at times, it's been tedious even. But it hasn't let me down. I let myself down, but really only because what I expected from myself was unrealistic. I can't be perfect and I don't want to be. Letting that ridiculous shit go has opened up to me a wonderful marriage - it's fun, it's sexy, it's romantic and it's real. Still hard at times and on a Friday night when the old man has fallen asleep a half hour into movie night on the couch, it can even be a little boring. But it's mine and I'm no longer letting it down. My, how he loves me.

I'm lighter.

My mom's dead. That's so hard to say even still; at times, it even a little unbelievable. She and I - incredibly close. Maybe too close, I don't know. I miss her and I need her. Her death followed a rather short, but painful battle with cancer. I don't remember who I was before Mom got sick. I certainly don't think I was anyone poised to care for her, to carry her, to bathe her, to feed her, to walk the last mile with her and to let her go. But there I was, adding to my shoulders the weight of my mom. Five years later, and I'm still carrying her. I have been making decisions, raising my kids, planning events - with her in mind, hoping to making her proud. She's been gone for half a decade and I'm still looking for her approval, something she never denied me during her living years. I just still want it. It was there, her last night - enough to last me a lifetime. My mom is dead, and while I won't ever hear her say, "you're such a good (mother/ daughter/wife/friend/person), Shell" or "the world is lucky to have you in it", I have to believe it's what she'd tell me if she were here. And while it's not really - for any of us, it has to be good enough. I'm done living my life in search of someone else's approval. I've always had it and it's time to let go. My mom is dead. My, how she loved me.

I'm lighter.

I'm still a work in progress, but slowly, I hope I become the person whom I can really, truly see and think, "I want to be like her when I grow up."

I don't know if it's exactly FXB that has inspired this kind of soul searching or provoked me to unload some of this excess emotional weight, but I really do think that it's given me such an awesome opportunity to not only transform my body, but to let loose life's baggage that has been weighing me down. I'm making friends, I'm learning new ways to fuel my body and clear my mind, I'm finding my own strength to reach out of my comfort zone and to feel free to be who I want to be. My, how I love me.

I'm happier and I'm healthier.

And after week #5 testing, I'm officially 11 pounds and 10 & 3/4 inches smaller!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Bet your ass I'm lighter!

Celebrating the Fourth

Well, sure it's the July 4th weekend, but I'm celebrating something even bigger! I've completed four full weeks of FXB, not having missed a single day AND (this is big!) staying completely disciplined with my nutrition. Clearly, that's been the hardest part of this, even still. It's a bit jarring to me how easily and thoughtlessly I used to grab a handful of chips or a snack on a bowl of M&Ms. Now, I'm constantly putting careful thought into meal preparations and making sure I'm actually eating enough.

The nutritional plan FXB has taught me isn't about counting points, cutting out out all fat, eating a week's worth of cabbage soup (whoever came up with that recipe is a sadist) or mixing cayenne pepper and cinnamon in some tea concoction to cleanse my system. It's about learning that carbs can be good for you and that protein is what my body has been craving. I'm not starving myself on celery. I'm learning how to create healthy meals that don't taste like cardboard. It's liberating to find that I'm starting to enjoy eating healthily and that I find the challenge to learn new ways of cooking kind of fun.

Let's not get out of hand here - it is, afterall, July 4th weekend. Annual barbeques, coolers stocked with cold beer, blenders of margaritas, buffets lined with potato salad, brownies, chips, baked beans, burgers and hotdogs. Did I fill up my plate and enjoy a few cocktails? Absolutely. But, without guilt or regret, because I knew how easily I would be able to get back into my newer, healthy habits.

It's amazing what I've learned in such a short amount of time. Aside from learning new ways of eating and cooking, I've also learned that in making those choices, I'm not feeling deprived or starved. Rather, I've discovered that I've been depriving my body of feeling like this for too long. The easy grabs out of the cookie jar held me hostage to a sluggish body. I know I won't always go for the lean turkey burger over a loaded chili dog, but I know that I will give it careful thought and make a choice based on how it will make me feel. I'm confident that I will more often overwhelmingly go for the healthier options, so that chili dog will be an occasional treat and not the status quo of my dietary habits.

What a feeling - a little bit like Independence Day. Celebrating my own personal freedom.

Happy Fourth to ME!

Overcoming Fear of Commitment

So this morning I received an email letting me know that FXB was cancelled today due to a power outage. It's the last day of class for week three and I was so sore from yesterday's killer cardio class. Thunder was rolling and the rain was still falling. My room was dark and everyone, including my dogs were all still asleep. How tempting it was to crawl back into bed and wink out another hour of sleep.

I had a choice, one that would've been so easy to make a month ago. This morning, I made another choice. I got online to see what classes were offered at the Y and dragged my body to a muscle intensive workout. I ran into my fellow gym rat pals whom I haven't seen in a while since starting FXB and they were surprised to see me. When I explained where I've been and what I've been doing and why I was at the Y instead of Farrells, someone said, "Good for you. I would've taken the gift and gone back to bed." Midway through the class, I thought maybe I should've just stayed in bed. My legs were shaking and my arms protested - loudly! I'm glad I didn't.

It used to be that any excuse I could come up with to skip a workout was a viable one. I justified just about any reason to avoid the gym. This morning, a bonafide excuse was given to me and for the first time, I didn't use it. I am as committed to my overall fitness and health as I am to that of my family's.

After years of fearing that kind of commitment, I've finally found myself worthy of making lifetime promises to me! I didn't use the excuse to skip a morning's workout, I didn't use the excuse to skip the chance to take care of me.

In the words of the ever eloquent Beyonce', I liked it so much, I put a ring on it.

.....and I'll live happily ever after!

Perspective - a gift we give ourselves.

Well, week #2 is in the books. I made it - I haven't missed a single class yet and that's not always easy with three active children at home and a husband who's job is to serve and protect. I've missed a couple ball games, arranged for childcare, grocery shopped later at night and ran errands with three naughty children in tow. All so that I can carve out 60 precious minutes Monday through Saturday to make it to class. Initially, I wasn't about to waste the money we shelled out in order for me to sign up, and while that continues to be somewhat of a motivating factor, I find that something more vital and important inspires me to wrangle into a sports bra and humbly allow others watch me sweat and grimace through the pain . . . me! I want this for me; so much so that it's occurred to me that I haven't placed myself anywhere near the list of my priorities. Discovering self importance is just one of the things I'm learning about myself through this.

Perspective is another.

It's Father's Day weekend. How I would love to have Dad over for a bbq and a beer out in the backyard on a leisure Sunday afternoon. And I will next year, and hopefully many years to come. But this year, he's in Columbus, Ohio. He's washing dishes, catching up on laundry, mowing the lawn and anything else my brother needs him to do while he's sitting next to my sister-in-law's hospital bed as she recovers from another procedure cancer has forced her to endure. Yeah, cancer. Kee's 37 years old, never lit a cigarette in her life, doesn't abuse her body and honored our family by falling in love with my brother. She's a mother of a 6 and 9 year old and a stepmother to my gorgeous niece. And she's fighting for her life and for all of us who love her.

Think sit-ups suck? Those push-ups kicking your ass? Walking around the block too much for your legs? Chemotherapy's no bag of tricks, I bet. Radiation? It's not for wimps! Having hard time forcing vegetables in your diet? Imagine having a hard time keeping anything in your stomach. Need a nap after a vigorous workout? Keelee needs a nap after walking up the stairs.

I sound holier-than-thou, but that's not me. I'm the least sanctimonious person you'll meet. I know how hard it is to push my body to its limits and work past the pain. But I recognize that it's on a much smaller level than what Keelee and all the other cancer warriors out there are going through and what they're asking their bodies to endure so they can live. Today's lower body was rough for me - I moved up in bands and gave it all that I could. I wanted to quit. I wanted to stop. I wanted to die.

Keelee doesn't. And the millions that are fighting her same fight don't either.

So, I figure I can stand the pain, the sore muscles and the tired body. My sister-in-law can stand so much more. Does so much more. Is so much more.

Here's the thing - we get this ride once and we only get one body to do it in. Enjoy the ride, take care of your body and when you think you can't push it to do one more step, force it into one more push-up or endure one more sit-up...think of those who demand so much more of their bodies so that they get to take as many steps in this world as possible.

Wrap your arms around those you love this weekend, unabashedly and without reserve.

....and make sure the first person you hold is yourself!

My dirty little late night secret.

One week may not seem like much of an accomplishment, but if you've never done Farrell's FXB, then you can't know what an extreme and intense week it's been. So, yeah - I'm giving myself a pat on the back for making it to every class and not giving up. Because over the course of one class, as my muscles were burning or I thought I was about to actually cough up a lung, I seriously considered slinking away and making a beeline directly to Dairy Queen and congratulating myself for ending the torture with a chocolate shake. I can't decide what made me stay - avoiding the humiliation of leaving early or the personal desire to stick with it and push past the pain. Either way, I didn't walk out and I haven't had that chocolate shake yet.

I consider both to be pretty big accomplishments.

Seriously - if you know me, then you're probably not surprised that I didn't quit class, but you're surely in awe that I didn't go for the shake.

My shakes these days consist of Greek yogurt, bananas, strawberries, flaxseed, Whey protien powder, vanilla almond milk, Chia seeds and ice cubes. They're no extra thick, super sized chocolate shakes from McDonald's, but they're not all that bad. If I'm hungry enough, I can almost convince myself that it's a strawberry malt from my favorite hamburger joint.


Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.....hamburgers. With cheese. And bacon. Any dripping with mayonnaise.

Clearly, my obsession with food hasn't waned, but I'm proud to say that I've not been sidetracked by a bag of Cheetos yet. Thankfully, we have a cheat day built into our program, so I can lay off the turkey and string cheese for a day and not worry about my good carbs to protein ratio and enjoy some of my favorite guilty pleasures. But beyond that one day, I have not given in to my many daily cravings for an Oreo or a handful of M&M's. I now reach for raw almonds, baby carrots or a Granny Smith apple instead now. It is as satisfying and tasty as a big pan of brownies? Fuck no. I still want Geno's pepperoni pizza rolls instead of grilled chicken, but there's a different satisfaction in making the healthy choices and it has really nothing to do with my body and health. For the first time in a long time, I have control and self discipline in my kitchen, in the grocery store aisle and in my life.

Will I fall off the wagon from time to time? I probably will - I'm not perfect and while I know that food has a wee bit of power over me, I also admit that I really love a good meal - rich sauces, dense pastas, hearty potatoes, delicious appetizers and all eaten with a good glass of wine. I'm not giving up those kinds of meals. I'm just having far less of them.

What gets me through the night? Well, like every long dry spell, we all need to scratch that itch from time to time.

So I'm dvr'ing commercials for IHOP, Dijorno pizza, Breyer's ice cream, Keebler cookies, PF Chang's frozen entrees and Baskin Robbins and watching them late at night after everyone goes to bed.

We all need our porn.

Hamstrings, quads and glutes....oh MY!

What's more humbling than test day at Farrell's?

Grabbing ahold of the towel rack in the bathroom to hoist your "dead from the waist down" body off the toilet.

TMI? I don't care. If you've worked out your legs to the point of what my instructor calls, 'total muscle failure', you know exactly what I'm talking about. We've all been there.

Lower body workout yesterday. At one point, I saw the depths of hell. No, seriously. My legs, particularly my hamstrings - were burning so badly that I wasn't sure I was going to be able to drive home last night. Who am I kidding? I was afraid that I'd have to crawl to the car, ask an 89 year old lady to give me a shove into the passenger side and give her a $20 to drive me home.

These bands - where did they come from? Who invented them and who, in their right mind, thought that wrapping one end around your knee and slipping the other end over your opposite foot and then stretch that leg as far out as possible (appropriately called a mule kick, because I felt like a jackass for being such a wimp) for 32 reps was a good thing?

We did all sorts of monstrous and torturous things with the bands. We lunged, we squatted, we kicked, we pulled, we forced our ass muscles to wake up from their Rip Van Winkle-esque sleep and decide to play a pivotal role in well, our asses. I knew I had glutes, but they were kind of like my highschool yearbooks- stored away, under a bunch of junk and never looked at again. I doubt that I'll haul the yearbooks out, but it's high time I make use of my ass muscles; they've been stored under too much junk for too long.

So, today I'm welcoming back my gluteal muscles. I imagine they'll make me pay in all sorts of painful ways for neglecting them for so long. I suppose I deserve that.

Bring on the bands, baby!

My ass has been waiting.

This aint no 48 hour miracle, that's for sure!

So, I've finished day 2 of the FXB challenge. That leaves a mere 58 to go. That makes me wimper a little. I mean, I get that it's a lifestyle change, but why can't it be successful after 48 hours? Zit creams work that fast. We feel better after two days of antibiotics. I've recovered from monster hangovers in that timespan. So, why not, after a day of cardio kickboxing that made me dizzy with fatigue and a workout that can only be defined as torture (but really Resistant Training), can I not look like a supermodel capable of ass kicking?

Because I'm the living example of what I tell my children daily: Life's not fair.

I want so desperately to remain eloquent and refined throughout this blog adventure, but as I sit here, icing a calf, stinking like Ben Gay and hoping my arms don't literally fall off, all I can think of are words that rhyme with truck, spit, block pucker, brother clucker and fun of a ditch. There is no eloquence when it involves sweating like a pig and involuntarily grunting while stretching a resistant band, also known as the devil's toy. For 45 straight minutes during class today, a stream of the most obscene and depraved words and phrases went through my head. I'm no lady during this challenge. And I guess I'm not supposed to be.

I guess you can figure out how it's going so far - exactly how it's supposed to go. I'm using muscles I wasn't aware existed in my body, creating new swear words in my head, gasping for air after cardio, learning how to like celery and wobbling around like the Hunchback of Notre Dame. Which I guess means, I'm doing it right. And already - I'm looking forward to tomorrow's class. That says something.

But damn! It's a pain in my brother clucking ass! (And everywhere else.)

"This is a test. It is only a test."

So, today was test day at Farrell's. This is where we mere mortals find out how badly we need to get into shape. I was completely prepared to be disappointed by my body and it's abilities. I'm thrilled to report that I wasn't horribly disappointed and that my test day results weren't as bad as I thought they were going to be. Am I ready for a marathon? Well, yes - if it involves a bowl of popcorn and eight consecutve episodes of Beverly Hills 90210. If it involves a finish line at the end of 26 miles, then no. But, maybe for the first time, it's not out of the realm of possibilities. Someday.

The rundown of my morning consisted of some fairly agonizing numbers; like weight, measurements and my fat percentage. I wasn't crazy about any of them, but they have only one way to go.....down! I met my other team members, recognizable by the fear in their eyes and the desperation in their handshakes. We aren't alone in the Farrell's World, and what a feeling that quickly became.

During presentations and fitness testing, I couldn't help but get caught up in the excitement we were all feeling and the motivation the instructors and coaches inspired us with. They've been where we are and they were there to show us how far we can go. Music blared and everyone cheered us on with each push up, sit up and step of our mile run . . . and somewhere between walking in the doors and throwing my tired body into my car at the end of the morning, I went from being scared (ok, terrified) to determined and confident.

Somewhere, at some point I realized that while it's up to me to make my transformation, I'm not really doing it alone. I have friends and family who are supporting me along the way. And some of them I met today!

This is not only a test. It's my life.

The Eve of Change

Twas the night before testing and all through the track, everyone is hoping I don't have a heart attack.

Welp, it's on folks. I'll be donning the new shoes, ready to carry me through the mile run, something called a sit and reach and a pathetic minute of push ups.

I'm nervous, excited and hoping I won't require oxygen after it's all over. Maurio and I spent a fun date night at the horse track and I watched those horses run a mile and all I could think was, "well, at least I won't have some small little man sitting on me, smacking me with a whip". Then again, maybe I'd run faster. Or maybe I need to keep my fantasies to myself.

I'm as ready as I'm ever going to be. I'm on the verge of something - I hope it's greatness. I shared my fears with a good friend this week and asked her, "do you think I can really do this?" She simply replied, "I think you can do whatever you put your mind to." With that kind of endorcement and encouragement, it'll be hard to fail. Proving her (and myself) right is up to me. In ten weeks, I'll owe her a big thank you - it's turned out to be the very boost in confidence I needed.

And I heard them exclaim as I laced up my shoes, "Get to it Michelle, you can do whatever you choose!"

Game on.

Spandex is my friend.

Working out isn't new to me. I've been a member of our local YMCA for years. I've even devoted months at a time at various classes; turbo kick, Y pump, cardio conditioning and I made a pathetic attempt at high impact step. I have the appropriate attire and an expensive pair of shoes, all at the ready for this brand new chapter in my life.

What I need is a sports bra. One preferrably made by NASA with technology created only by rocket scientists. I'm no Pamela Lee Anderson, but the girls need support!!! I have several sports bras, but they've all seen their day, so I'm on a mission for a sports bra that I can rely on for absolute support and a modicum of comfort. Gracie and I are heading out tonight to find Mama a bra that will hold everything still that should be still; because let's face it - not much else on this ol' body of mine will be still!

I will impart one of my many pearls of wisdom that a mother should share with her daughter: Spandex is our friend. And for the next 10 weeks, spandex will be my very best friend.

I'm still holding out hope that NASA will save the day and offer up a technologically perfect bra. They put a man on the moon, for God's sake! How hard can a superior sports bra be?

Two more days.

The girls are nervous!

Dead Woman Eating

I've always wondered, if I knew it was my last day on Earth, what would my last meal be? Would I go for a deep dish pizza loaded with pepperoni, Italian sausage, mushrooms and extra cheese? Perhaps a mountain of garlic steamed crab legs and a vat of hot, rich butter. Maybe Hunan shrimp over lo mein noodles with crab rangoons and steamed potstickers. Of the 31 flavors at Baskin Robbins, how many would I pile onto a sugar cone for my last dessert? Which piece of cheesecake would I order from the Cheesecake Factory? A blizzard or a peanut buster parfait from Dairy Queen?

If I were given carte blanche for my last mortal meal, what would it be?

That's how I feel this week: I'm Sean Penn and I'm heading down the Green Mile.

At what point did we turn food into something with so much power over us? Seriously, who hasn't fantasized about what they're going to have for lunch on a given day? Who doesn't look up online menus of restaurants they're going to later that evening - just to salivate over the options they'll have. Who doesn't love those damn Cheddar Bay biscuits at Red Lobster? Sorry, I got sidetracked by a coupon for Red Lobster sticking out of my coupon basket. When did food become such a force in our lives that when making the choice to eliminate the unhealthy options from our daily lives, we feel like we're losing a limb? Or worse, as in my case - I feel like my execution day is upon me.

I'm emotionally preparing myself to say goodbye to all the fatty, greasy, delicious foods that I've grown to love, but have grown to.....well, they've grown on my hips. I feel like I'm losing my oldest, dearest friend. But here's the thing; I know I don't have to say goodbye forever. I need to learn how to have a healthy relationship with nachos. Even the deepest and most profound relationships sometimes need a little distance to rethink the relationship, establish some boundaries and to figure out each partner works. Clearly, I don't work well with a can of Pringles just yet.

I'm taking a break (Ross and Rachel style) from Keebler, Frito Lay, Hostess and Nabisco. We'll meet again and I'll be stronger then. I won't lean so heavily (pun intended) on them for comfort and support. I'll know when I've had enough and when to put them back in my pantry.

Until then, I'm getting acquainted with fruit, vegetables, protien, whole grains and maybe yogurt. I can't make promises on that one. For me, yogurt has always been like chunky, sour milk. But that's my issue and I'll have to get past it.

In case you're wondering: a slice of deep dish, a plate of crab legs with hot butter and a side of Hunan shrimp. I'd get garlic bread instead of potstickers, but it would be smothered in mozzerella cheese. And always, ALWAYS the peanut buster parfait. I mean, really....did you even wonder?

Three more days.

Dead Woman Eating.

Losing my mind. (and hopefully weight)

I hate how my thighs rub together. I hate how Dolly Madison is one of my BFF's. I hate that when I look in the mirror, it's not my mom's warm brown eyes that smile back at me, but her arm fat that flaps around. I hate how it takes a jar of vaseline to get into my favorite pair of jeans . I just flat out hate feeling out of shape and pretty much out of control when it comes to eating. I love food. Let me re-phrase that. I have such an personal relationship with food that I can identify a Dorito from a Ruffle by the sound of its' crunch, while blindfolded. Hydrox cookies insult me, Oreos have been at my side for every pre-marriage breakup; I would never be unfaithful to such loyal companions. Ice cream got me through my mother's death. See....a very personal relationship.

I love food.

It's time to love me more. Time to get this body back into shape. Time to "just say No" to AE French onion dip. Time to move more. Time to stop the thigh chafing. Time to say goodbye, Dolly and her chocolate Zingers baked by the Devil. To quote someone else with her namesake, "Bittersweet Memories....that is all I'm taking with me. And I.....will always love you."

I have joined Farrell's Extreme Bodyshaping, popularly named FXB. There's a great deal of explanation on their website: http://www.extremebodyshaping.com/what_is_fxb.html

I will follow a six day/per week regimine of kickboxing coupled with rhythmic martial arts, resisistance training and nutrition for ten weeks.

I'll break it down fat girl style: I'm going to work my ass off, beg for death and learn how to eat asparagus and hummus. I will hurt, hurl and maybe even see that big glowy white light during exhaustion induced hallucinations.....and try to make a run for it. But, hey - at least I'll be running.

You know what? I'm not going to lie - I'm kinda scared. Who am I kidding? I'm terrifed. But more than anything, I'm so excited. I feel like I'm on the verge of changing my life and for once, in a really long while - doing something just for me.

I have four days until the big test day, where I'll find out all sorts of fun stuff - oh like what percentage of my body is all fat, how slow I run a mile and how many people I can get to laugh directly at me when I do my pushups. It's a humbling day, to be sure. But it's a day I need. I'll remember Saturday, June 5, 2010 - the day I said goodbye to who I am now and hello to the person I was always meant to be.

I have set several personal goals. Number one: don't die.